I lost my son my son to cancer 3 months ago. I’m thankful the words spoke courage to your heart. He is well-acquainted with grief and he has entered into the hell of your sin in order to bring you back to the land of the living and loving. When trudging along this road it is easy to long for a pleasant surprise, a happier time around the bend. This implies that, since God knows what is best, we can accept that and not be concerned with what happens. It was all about how if we are grieving we need to repent of our sin. In the above two situations with Ahab and the Ninevites, their actions clearly pleased God. It is no sacrifice to praise God for the beautiful blessings. Nothing to be ashamed of. No! If mourning is an appropriate time to fast, and you happen to be mourning over your sin, then it could be appropriate to fast too. And (heaven forbid!) By His divine power He really has given us all things pertaining to life and godliness! I have faith. Grief is not sin. However, our grief cannot even begin to be compared to the grief of the one who knew no sin. Jesus has transformed believers’ grief into a vehicle toward hope, since the climax of Jesus’ grief became the turning point of the human story. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Unbelievers have no such struggles or griefs. What sins around us do you think should be particularly grievous to us. Sin has raceless white skin with long, mildly wavy, mint green hair. To learn how grief over our sin produces repentance, listen to this sermon I delivered as a guest preacher…. Cathy, I am sorry that you know this pain. The gospel tells us that sin grieves God so it should grieve us, too (sin committed by us, sin committed against us, and the various effects of sin). Living God's Way—Pastor, Author, and Conference Speaker, June 2, 2016 by Scott LaPierre 7 Comments. One problem with grief is the fear that the intense pain will last forever. He went through the normal recommendations, such as keeping a strong immune system, eating well, , getting enough sleep. If we do think of the physical consequences of sin our minds immediately go to struggles with drugs or alcohol. Grief is part of life. While it seemed to please God in the Old Testament, we don’t see it commanded, encouraged, or even modeled in the New Testament as an appropriate response to sin. And especially, draw near to Jesus as you grieve. Today is inside …….So many are sick and a couple of people have a low form of pneumonia. This isn’t instructive for us. As a brief aside, while grief and weeping from such are blameworthy passions, only the consent of the will to despondency is sin. Is God good? She has red eyes. Again, thank you for your ministry to other grieving parents! When the Ninevites learned they were going to be judged: [They] believed God, proclaimed a fast, and put on sackcloth from the greatest to the least of them. For in Adam we all sinned, and in Adam we all died (Rom. Jesus has opened the way to the throne of grace by His own blood. It’s one of the enemy’s favorite lies. GRIEF AT SIN. It is quite the sacrifice to praise God for what Joni Eareckson Tada calls a “bruising of a blessing”. If I turn my heart and face toward the One Who made me and trust that even in this painful place He is carrying me and will care for me, that’s not sin. And in Yerushalayim you are comforted.”. The Father sent a messenger It wasn’t until another grieving mom asked the question that I realized there are some (many?) !….lose a child I can almost guarantee you that they would see grief like yours in a whole different light!! Melanie you wii never know how much you have helped me! He loves His children also and can do anything . ” (2 Corinthians 7:10) It is depressing when we realize how sinful we are in God’s eyes. A light bulb moment for me when you said, ” It doesn’t mean I don’t believe Him, it just means I don’t understand Him. I also start to feel guilty for questioning God, but that is the enemy. His cancer was cured and his agonizing pain left him with his last earthly breath. Rivers of water run down from my eyes, because men do not keep Your law. God has a standard for the redeemed to live by and we fail... often (Philippians 1:27). Was there a time in your life you saw yourself as spiritually rich? The Man of Sorrows became acquainted with grief (Isa. The processes of mourning follow the basic brain principles for change in top-down cortical mappings. {Ibid.} He takes my grief … Can you think of any others? Few titles in Scripture – if any – can rival what God called David: “a man after My Own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14; Acts 13:22). The problem is that we don’t listen and are disobedient! You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. One study showed individuals with the highest levels of anger had twice the risk of coronary artery disease and three times the risk of heart attack. Grief is hard. As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. And I come away knowing that even if I don’t understand everything about God, I still believe and place my faith in him. Inexpressible grief. Isaiah 66:2 “And all these My hand have made, and all these that exist,” declares יהוה. I know in Heaven I will fully know as I am fully known. Do we experience grief over our sin? But it wasn’t their fasting that moved God: Is fasting an appropriate response to sin for us? Thank you for pointing us toward Christ even as we grieve deeply our biggest loss in this life. Not at first, mind you-everyone is “allowed” a certain amount of time to get over the loss of a dream, the loss of a job, the loss of health or the loss of a loved one. For years I wanted nothing to do with barbecued potato chips and even the smell of them reminded me of my bad experience. Listen to these words from David following his sin: This past week I was watching a health lecture on YouTube. “We bring the sacrifice of praise….” What sacrifice have you made lately? Required fields are marked *. Hi Rebecca, Grief definitely takes many forms, thanks for sharing your example. As a result, we suffer with grief every day of our lives — grief over the loss of others, over the sin of others, and over the sin within us. I stopped at a little convenience store and bought a bag of barbecued potato chips. And yet Jesus wept for and with Mary and Martha. God has made it clear in his Word what a person needs to do to be healthy. This echos everything I have felt for 2 years since losing my son, Noah. Praise God for his goodness and providence in our lives! Isaiah 57:15 For thus declares the high and exalted One who dwells forever, whose Name is set-apart, “I dwell in the high and set-apart place, with him who has a bruised and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of bruised ones. The Hebrew root for "grieve, " nhm [ ;j"n ], communicates a mixture of divine indignation against sin and a heartfelt anguish concerning the plight of his creation. (I Thessalonians 4:13). But sin takes a physical toll on us. For now, I’ll just admit that I don’t know. Although grief still grabs me at times, God’s loving comfort is more powerful than my pain. But I am honest with God and continue to wrestle with Him with all my questions and confusion. View all posts by Melanie. I feel guilty for missing work today, but I needed time to grieve. Their examples can challenge us! Instead of milk it should say, “Obeying God does a body good.”. Filed Under: Trials and Suffering Tagged With: jesus, prayer, sin. They even had an altar call for those who needed to confess this sin. He described what happens in our bodies when we get angry: capillaries restrict, the heart has to work much harder, hormone levels are negatively affected, we become less reasonable, and our bodies become slower to heal, and experience poorer pulmonary function. Forgiveness only comes from what Jesus has done, and not from anything we could do. It requires us to feel our way through the sense of loss produced by suffering. This example deals with one of the wickedest groups of people in the Old Testament. Thank you for this reminder that grief is normal and needed. Then God saw their works, that they turned from their evil way; and God relented from the disaster that He said He would bring upon them, and He did not do it. The divine Son of God was fainting, dying. It just hurts. Grief and sorrow are a result of sin “ … sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned ” (Romans 5:12) When God had created the world, including the plants, animals and humans, … “The whole creation groans” (mourns, grieves) “to be set free from bondage to decay”. The closest verse would be Jesus’ words about fasting when mourning: “The days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them; then they will fast in those days.”. Life after child loss is one giant struggle after another. He rose up from before the house of God…and when he came there, he ate no bread and drank no water, for he mourned because of the guilt of those from the captivity. I believe this took place in the spiritual realm, but was played out in the physical realm: The Lord said to [the angels], “Go through the midst of the city, through the midst of Jerusalem, and put a mark on the foreheads of the men who sigh and cry over all the abominations that are done within it.”. Great thoughts: yes, if we’re truly sorry (a godly sorrow versus worldly sorrow – 2 Cor 7:10), we should lose our appetite like you did for the chips. So, our Orthodox icons of the Theotokos and Saint John weeping at the crucifixion is not a terrible example of sin—this would be absurd. And I can’t make up a tidy wrapped up package for other people’s consumption. And yet, since the entry of sin into the world, not only have all experienced sin because of Adam (Rom. ❤. The bible also tells us not to worry, and there’s plenty of evidence to show the physical harm in worrying. He became sin for the fallen race. Dear mama, I’m so glad this helped your heart. I called out of work today, I just couldn’t do it today. There are a lot of posts on questions, trust, faith that can be found by using then” search” function on the blog. Grief At Sin. Tinling's Illustrations. (This is a very small church and today’s sermon was obviously agenda driven and directed at us.) [God said], ‘Because he has humbled himself before Me, I will not bring the calamity in his days.’”. I know. To be repentant, to me, means that our sin pretty much nauseates us. It surprised me the first time I read it. Well said Brother! Your mention of nausea and sickness made me think of the dog returning to its vomit and the way that pictures our return to sin. 1. It also tells us that, because Jesus is a man of sorrow and acquainted with grief, we are not alone in our grief. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. Never Discount True Grief. “Is God good?” “Does God protect the ones he loves?” I still struggle with this everyday. Isaiah 61:2 to proclaim the acceptable year of יהוה, and the day of vengeance of our Elohim, to comfort all who mourn, Isaiah 66:10 “Rejoice with Yerushalayim, and be glad with her, all you who love her; rejoice greatly with her, all you who mourn for her; Isaiah 66:13 “As one whom his mother comforts, so I comfort you. Thus, in grief, God responds in judgment against sin, yet bestows saving grace and mercy on Noah and his family (Gen 6:7-8). Have you buried a child? GRIEF AT SIN. Your email address will not be published. Once again they started intermarrying with the surrounding people. Around fifteen years after Ezra’s day, Nehemiah led the third and final return of Jews back into the land. When we lose those dear to us—no matter how vibrant their testimony—we have a natural grief that shouldn’t be discounted. No, you can’t pull out someone’s hair if their sin angers you enough; however, the frustration Nehemiah felt should challenge us. Our new nature in Christ feels sick about anything we do or say that is outside of God’s will, the way those chips made my body feel poorly. ALL the time? In On Grief and Grieving, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross asked me to help adapt the stages she had observed in the dying to account for the similar stages we had also observed in those who are grieving.They are not a method for tucking messy emotions into neat packages. Not at first, mind you -everyone is “allowed” a certain amount of time to get over the loss of a dream, the loss of a job, the loss of health or the loss of a loved one. 53:3) so that He might bear our grief and carry away … Praying you feel the Lord’s love, mercy and grace wash over your wounded heart. The writer of Hebrews speaks of bringing the “sacrifice of praise” (Hebrews 13:15). May He overwhelm your broken heart with His grace, love and mercy. The quickest and most consistent way to grieve over our sin is by seeing Jesus for who he is and the worthy life he calls us to live. Your email address will not be published. You will not 'get over' the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. May the Lord give you the strength you need for each day and may He fill your heart with His love, grace and mercy. While it is possible to dishonor God by allowing our grief to give way to unbelief and bitterness toward God (which is sin), we don’t have to respond that way. That said, we’re now living in a world of sin, sorrow, and separation. Part of it had to do with David’s repentant heart, but the bigger reason is David had a deep love for God and this was shown through the grief he felt over other’s sins. Then he started talking about avoiding things like bitterness, anger, and even unforgiveness. Thank you for writing this blog. Her bottom half is that of an olive gr… I don’t have to hide and I don’t have to be afraid. As the miles went by, the bag (and not a small one) became empty. Death is awful and the redemption of what was lost in the Fall cost God His only son. 65 Grief Quotes To Help Cope With Loss 1. (Romans 8:21-22). God bless you!!!!! I hope Hector gets off o.k. So sad. Psalm 32:5. It’s the widow’s mite-it’s everything I’ve got. We can no longer stomach being out of God’s will. If I allow my heart, mind and soul to focus exclusively on what I’ve lost instead of what I’m promised through Jesus Christ, that is sin. Its effects were visible on his outward frame: His bones wasted away; his strength dried up like the drought of summer. 5:19), but all have experienced the grief that sin brings. ” Thank you! "The reality is that you will grieve forever. Hi Jeff, Thanks again for some Old Testament verses that relate to the post. We lost our son 5 weeks ago. We lost our youngest son, Luke, about 16 months ago, after a two year battle with cancer. Here is … Considering the terrible sins David committed, we might wonder why God would refer to him this way. I’m so sorry this has happened!! Two kinds of grief about sin “ … godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. [Obedience brings] health to your body and nourishment to your bones. We don’t normally think of the physical benefits of obedience. Grief is about you and your relationships with others, and it helps to have others help you with your grief. Jesus’ grief culminated in an unthinkable judicial drama that wiped out the sin and eternal misery of his people. Paul said, “We do not grieve as those who have no hope”  NOT  “we do not grieve”. in the community of believers that think grief is sin. Do we experience grief over our sin? This example might surprise you. No one has said to me that grief is sin, but for some reason I wrestle with this question internally. John Bunyan's wife having, after several previous applications to different judges, made a specially importunate appeal to Judges Hale and Twisdon for the release of her husband from Bedford gaol, and being again unsuccessful, said: "I … Just what I needed. Sorrow and missing my son is not sin. Thank you so much for this article. David Experienced Grief Over Sin. It’s scary and messy. Thank you again, you are truly gifted to write something so very true, but yet so beautiful! Before Babylon destroyed Jerusalem and took the Jews into exile, God chose to spare some men by putting marks on their foreheads. Jesus Himself wept at the death of His friend Lazarus in John 11:35. Rebecca J. Shefchek. ❤️, The other example I often think of is Jesus crying at Lazarus’ tomb. He knew His Father’s purpose was to show his authority over death. Grieving over my sin, makes me think of a time when I was coming back from a long drive and wanting to snack on something to pass the time. When he learned he was going to be judged by God: “He tore his clothes…and fasted and lay in sackcloth, and went about mourning. I cry in church because I can’t believe I have the privilege of worshiping Him while hurting like this and that while it cost me something to worship while in pain, it truly means something and yes, it is totally worth it. A white flower with green leaves is tucked in her hair, as well as attached to her right sleeve. Praying that the Lord lifts you up and encircles you with His loving arms. And when Christ saves you, a transaction takes place in God’s legal system in which Christ absorbs the shame, guilt, and penalty for your sin, and God, the righteous Judge, rules you not guilty. you drag your limping soul to church on Sunday and sit silent during worship, tears streaming, as the rest of the congregation heartily affirms all the things you now wrestle with every day. The danger in running from grief, however, is that it can actually hinder us in our relationship with God, with others and with ourselves. What a terrible twisting of the grace of God. That being said, from firsthand experience I have learned many Christians believe grief is sinful. I just found your blog a few days ago and it has been a blessing to my weary soul. Individuals with severe grief or complicated grief could benefit from the help of a psychologist or another licensed mental health professional with a specialization in grief. 1. 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